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MEdia Choices

One of my favorite things to do is go to camp.  It's right up there with going to the beach for a week.  I really, really love it.  Now, you may think that I go for the proliferation of bugs that invade my life for 5 days, but that's only a side benefit.  The DEET-scented "body spray" is also a big plus.  (Or, in the case of Norman Park, GA, the Badger Balm.  Nothin' like it.)

I love being with the girls that I normally minister to on Wednesdays and Sundays.  We get to spend a whole week together and I get to be a part of their lives for that short period of time.  This last summer I talked to these beautiful girls about media choices and different media in their lives.  From that, I developed a list of questions to gauge their media choices and help them learn to make choices that honor God and their parents.  I run quickly away from legalism, because I want these girls to think and learn and apply God's principles for life on their own.  Students that go to a school, whether public or private, spend more time away from home than they do at home.  Thus, they need to be prepared and equipped with the knowledge to make choices on things that come into their lives.

If I went shopping for a car, I would have some definite ideas in mind for what I wanted this car to be like.  For me, gas mileage is important, safety is important, and of course having an auxiliary port would be super nice.  When I consider what goes in my head, I also need to have some definite ideas about what's going in there.  The first of five questions that I posed to my youth group was this:  Does the activity seen or described in this song, movie, TV show, magazine, website, etc. honor and glorify God?

Consider this when you listen to music, watch TV or movies, or look at something on the Internet.  One song that I used as an example last summer was Kesha's "Your Love is My Drug."  You can read the lyrics for yourself here: We read the lyrics and the girls decided that it did not honor and glorify God.  The interesting thing to me was that it was a unanimous decision -- there was no question in these girls' minds that these were lyrics that would distract their hearts and minds from a sincere desire to follow Christ.  God tells us in the Bible to love Him with all of our hearts, minds, and souls.  Knowing that this is true, since it comes from God's Word, keeping things out that take us away from loving God needs to be a number one priority.

We also looked at a country song, "Country Girl (Shake It For Me)."  It was the unanimous opinion of every girl that this song did not honor and glorify God and it definitely did not honor the girl that is spoken of in the song.  It's also one of my goals that young girls will learn that true worth and value comes from a relationship with Jesus Christ, not from relationships with boys.

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More tomorrow... question #2.

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