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Givin' Up

Giving up has such a negative connotation.  I'm giving up, throwing in the towel, that's all she wrote, the fat lady has sung.  I hate giving up.  I am thankful that I have an indomitable spirit of hope.  No matter how bad things are, I firmly believe that they are going to get better -- for other people.  I was ready to throw in the towel the other day with this whole blog thing.  But let me start with the beginning of the story, rather than starting in the middle like most of us ADD adults do.

I follow a lovely writer named Mary de Muth that is a published writer with a great web site and this incredible ministry.  I saw that another esteemed person that I follow, Micheal Hyatt, had asked the Tweetdom for names of people with great social platforms.  Mary responded with a few names, and because I like to see what other people are doing with their blogs, I clickety-clicked my way on over to one.  And it was this whole website with blog, speaking calendar, store, resources page, you name it.  And the next name had pretty much the same thing, except she is also in a network of speakers that address women's conferences.  And the next, and pretty much the same for the next. 

After viewing all of this, my big bloggin' balloon was completely deflated.  I thought, "Of all the blogs in all the world, why in the world should I continue mine?"  I don't have a speaking calendar (or speaking engagements) or any books or anything.  So yeah.  Failure with an upsized F.  I facebooked Mary and told her that with all these great writers, I really feel like a ginormous nothing.  But she wrote one statement that made me rethink the whole giving up, throwing in the towel, waiting-for-the-fat-lady-to-quit-singing thing.  She wrote that I am the only one that has my voice.  I am the only one that can say what is in my head.  (Some might consider this a good thing.)  So it's been a few days, but I'm back.  I'm not sure I will ever have this great website with professional photography and an actual webperson, but I will be content to do my thing, say my piece, be my quirky yet lovable self.

So what is it that you want to give up?  What makes you want to give up?  You are an individual and there is no one like you.  I once said this to Oldest Daughter and she quizzically looked at me and said, "Isn't that a song?"  which led to yes, that is a song, FROM BARNEY, but that's not why I said it.  Everyone has a special gift and talent and God will use that to take you to the place of amazing.  So keep on doing what you do, because you are the only person who can do it just like you.

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