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Hi. My Name's Terri, and I'm a Notification Junkie.

When I was at Cumberland College,  the College of the Kentucky Mountains, (now known as University of the Cumberlands) I was fortunate enough to serve on the Campus Activity Board, which planned all kinds of fun events for students.  (Shout out to Kime and Jeff Harris and Charlie and Kim Higgins, who were also on the board as freewheelin' single folks and eventually married.... aww) But, as usual, I digress.  One year we planned a series of games for Spring Fling and one of the activities was the twirly whirl, which, for you uneducated folks, is taking a baseball bat, standing it up straight, putting your nose on the end, and running around the bat like a crazy person at least ten times.  I'm not sure how it messes with your equilibrium, but try it and then try to walk normally.  Im-possible.  Really.  Try it.  It's kind of fun.  Or at least have your kids do it and laugh at them.  (evil mommy moment)

I love facebook and it is a great way to keep in touch with people.  I really enjoy being a part of people's lives and seeing their kids grow and all the neat stuff that happens in their lives.  With that said, however, I have to admit that I am a notification junkie.  I can't let a notification go by without looking at it.  And then get distracted by something else or someone else and then I wonder what my kids are posting and have to check out their pages and all of their friends are so cute and sweet  I enjoy their pics.  If you are familiar with the book If You Give a Mouse a Cookie, then imagine that adapted to facebook.  It never ends.

So, with a great majority of my time spent on keeping up with facebook, I neglect to actually call people or go see them.  I see people at church, out and about, and at work, and we talk about facebook.  It turns into a dizzying, uneven existence, kind of like the twirly whirl.  Instead, I want to have real, deep relationships with people and I want to know all about them, not just what their statuses say.  I want to talk to them, not text them or get a notification that they liked my status.  So I am taking a break from Facebook.  Just to step back and enjoy this time in my family's life, to enjoy the friendships I have, and to appreciate all that is around me.

Last night I facetimed one of my dearest friends who lives  hours away and we had a nice, long talk about everything and nothing.  I talked to my dad about an upcoming decision he has to make.  I invested my time into people, not Facebook.

So will I ever go back to Facebook?  It's hard to say.  I am kind of enjoying being facebook-free.  If you do see me on there, please say hi.  And then I'll probably call you to say hi back.

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