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Part one of five

Hey howdy hey, it’s me again.  Just when you thought it was safe to get back into the blogging water, I strike with the fierceness of a shark with marshmallow teeth.  Fear me. 
I am actually going to start a five-part blog based on a breakout session I did for our middle schoolers at camp.  It really does apply to everyone, so I hope you benefit from this in a way that you never thought possible. My breakout session was about denying the lie, and we talked about different media that misrepresents life as we know it.  To help the girls make good media choices, I gave them five guidelines by which they can gauge the purity of a song, movie, TV show, etc.  I’m going to expound on each of these five guidelines, each in their own pretty package of a blog.
The first is this:  Is this something that honors God and shows Him respect?
It’s amazing how far the world we live in has drifted away from God.  God’s original plan for man was wrecked by sin, because Adam and Eve wanted to be in control and be like God, with the knowledge of good and evil.  Control is a huge part of relationships today:  who has it, who wants it, and who doesn’t have any.  The only way that a Christian can live a peaceful and fulfilled life is to submit and live under God’s control.  This is not a popular mindset with people are either unsaved and don’t know this, or people are saved and living in rebellion.  However, God says in His word that we are to take up our cross daily and walk with Him in servanthood and humility.
·         So if we really wanted to honor God and show Him respect, how does this affect our media choices?  First, we are called to purity, so anything that is impure should not be entering our minds by eyes or ears. 
·         We are called to “esteem each other higher than ourselves,” so media that puts groups of people down should not be part of the choices we make. 
·         The Bible tells us that warring, arguing, and strife are not good and should be avoided.  So of all the reality shows that show people arguing over a dance class, a tow truck, arguing just to argue, or anything else that is similarly not important in the big picture that God has for us.
This is a daily battle and a daily struggle for all ages.  What is a tv show, movie, song, or any other media outlet that you have to struggle with?  All of my middle school girls know that “Ms. Brown loves a dancy, cute little song,”  but I really have to watch the lyrics to make sure I am not bringing something into my life that is displeasing to God.  I personally try not to watch too many romantic movies, because I know that romance is not a part of my life right now and I don’t want to become discontent with the life I have, because God has blessed me so richly.
So what’s your struggle?

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