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Jellyfish

Jellyfish.  The little, clear ones that don't really sting too bad. 

That's what I remember the most about staying at Cape May, New Jersey as a child.  We came out at dusk to walk on the beach and there were jellyfish everywhere, making walking kind of like trying to avoid the colored circles in Twister.  

But there was an enormous house a block off the ocean and we stayed there with another family.  It had a huge wooden banister, the kind that begs to be ridden, and lots of white bedrooms with white linens.  It was so unlike our house; we were very avocado and sunshine yellow and lots of other things the 70's are famous for.  Having a totally different environment was refreshing and renewing.

Fast forward roughly thirty years:  I am in a brand new environment that was very different, yet not refreshing and renewing.  Divorce has those ways about it.  But as I learned, I was building new habits that would become my "new normal."  

And now that I have stayed up enough…

The Beauty of the Here and Now, or My Catharsis from Children Going Away to College

Raising children is not only like a lot like herding cats, but it's also like trying to melt an iceberg with a hairdryer -- it takes a lot of time, it takes a lot of effort, and by the time you're finished what you thought you had to begin with is not the end product. A child starts out being tiny and cute; they go through these awkward years and they become wonderful young adults.  And THEN, virtually overnight in some cases, this child, who you rocked to sleep countless nights, cleaned up his vomit, looked at the same wiggly tooth a hundred times, and watched their amazing pool handstands over and over,wants to hang out with his friends and do his own thing.  (And I use his as a generic term.)How does this happen?  What goes on in the synapses of their brains?  I guess I did the same thing, but I was a lot more shallow and self-absorbed than any of my kids, even all my kids put together.  I only went away to college because I was dating someone fairly inappropriate and my pa…