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Jellyfish

Jellyfish.  The little, clear ones that don't really sting too bad. 

That's what I remember the most about staying at Cape May, New Jersey as a child.  We came out at dusk to walk on the beach and there were jellyfish everywhere, making walking kind of like trying to avoid the colored circles in Twister.  

But there was an enormous house a block off the ocean and we stayed there with another family.  It had a huge wooden banister, the kind that begs to be ridden, and lots of white bedrooms with white linens.  It was so unlike our house; we were very avocado and sunshine yellow and lots of other things the 70's are famous for.  Having a totally different environment was refreshing and renewing.

Fast forward roughly thirty years:  I am in a brand new environment that was very different, yet not refreshing and renewing.  Divorce has those ways about it.  But as I learned, I was building new habits that would become my "new normal."  

And now that I have stayed up enough nights and been to enough open houses and proofread enough English assignments, I have two that have graduated high school and both are away to college this fall.  And this is my "new normal."  I'm actually budgeting my income and I'm planning ways to specifically spend time with the younger daughter, which I'm really looking forward to.  I just have to learn how to talk less and listen more, which can be a lot like dodging jellyfish.  

Ecclesiastes 3:14 says, "I know that all God does will last forever; there is no adding to it or taking from it. God works so that people will be in awe of Him."  

I am so thrilled that I have seen God work to get my two older children to the college He has for them.  I can only give God the praise for what has transpired over the last year in regards to college decisions.  I am totally in awe, and I look forward to the future, and my new normal.


However, I am hoping for less jellyfish-like problems that leave me totally clueless; but then again, I get to totally rely on God during those times.  So here's to jellyfish for me, and for you!

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