Thursday, April 16, 2015

Waffle Fries Bring Clarity


If you have ever emoted those words within a short period of time, then you can relate to how I felt the other day.  I had a morning where I was a failure as a mom, forgot to do something fairly low on the importance scale at work, and then had a friend do something that left me a little disgusted and disappointed.

It was a Wednesday, and in my small world Wednesday is the day to eat lunch at Chick-fil-a.  So Amazing Friend and I did like we normally did, and as I sat down with my #1 meal, I felt some emotional stability ebbing from my paper carton of waffle fries.

Waffle fries are there for you.  They are always waffle-y, warm, and dipped in Chick-fil-a sauce, are a little bit of heaven.  But today, there was more.

I realized that some things are always the same, like waffle fries. But some things are always in flux, on the move, and susceptible to change.  Am I really the worst mother ever?  No.  Did my job depend on this small forgottance?  (an event where you forget something...use it, see if it sticks...) No.  Are people just people-y, not perfect, and subject to mistakes?  Yes.

So in that moment, I had clarity in life and it was all over some waffle fries.

I highly recommend the next time you are questioning life, keep in mind that what is today is not what will always be.  Mothers of small children, they WILL grow up.  Mothers of teens, they WILL grow up.  Work projects will come and go.  The seasons of life are not forever.

So enjoy.  Enjoy your children, your work (whatever it may be, and whether it's in an office or a home), and enjoy your friends, because we're all imperfect and one day that friend may not be in your life or just not as in the forefront of your life as you would like.

And  while you're at it,.eat some waffle fries.

Friday, April 10, 2015


Ever felt frustrated by the perfect lives people live on Facebook?

Ever left Facebook because people are so fake?

Ever taken the same picture 24 times to get it just perfect?

Then you, my friend, need a big dose of #ForRealFriday.

I have a group of dear, sweet, very close friends and we share the gritty details of our lives in a secret group on Facebook.  Not to be exclusive, but TRUST ME, not everyone will want to know the gory, tear-stained, raw details of our ordinary, overwhelming lives.  But one friend started the idea of #ForRealFriday after reading an article about the same thing.

So here's the deal:  Take a picture that's not staged, filtered, edited, or re-taken 24 times to get it just right.  Maybe it's your kid having a meltdown.  Or you without makeup (I know, uncomfortable.)  Or what your house looks like when you're not expecting company.

The temptation is this:  be perfect.  be cute.  be monogrammed.  be pretty.  be caffeinated.

The reality is this:  comparison kills.  comparison frustrates.  comparison robs contentment of joy.

So do this: Be Real.

Whether it's an Insta, or a tweet, or a status that shows what you really deal with, someone out there will appreciate knowing that she (or he) is not the only one.

So get out there.  And be real.

Thursday, April 9, 2015

No Charger Needed

Sometimes I charge my phone by hooking it up to my computer.

Whenever I do, I get this message on my phone:
And of course, I always touch TRUST because this is the computer I use everyday at work and there are a gazillion security things that keep it "clean."

What if people we met came with the same kind of banner?  Maybe with a notification that read something like, "This is a person you can trust," or "You need to walk away NOW because you cannot trust this person."

Trusting people is easy for some, not so much for others.  I think it depends on how your life has gone up until this point.  If you're fortunate, you have been surrounded by a healthy family unit and reliable friends.  But I don't know of anyone who has not put his trust in a person and been horribly let down at least once.   It's just a casualty of life.

So how do you know who you can trust?  Which people do you put your faith in and count on?  The answer is kind of a non-answer:  TIME.  It takes time to know who you can and can't trust, and unfortunately, even then you might get let down.

But here's the good thing:  Time is the answer to a lot of other trust issues.  Spending time with someone shows off his or her good points, but also shines a light into the dark corners so that the not-so-pretty can be exposed.  Once exposed, you can decide if the not-so-pretty is a thing to work through or if it is something from which you are protecting yourself by way of healthy boundaries.

Psalm 18:28 says, "For it is you (God) who light my lamp; the Lord my God lightens my darkness."  God will reveal to you the wisdom you need in every situation.  He tells us that we can ask for wisdom and get it -- Proverbs 2:6 promises "For the Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding," and of course James 1:5 says, "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given to him."

Trust. Time, Wisdom.  Can't use a lightning cord or a mini-USB to get these, but the charge lasts forever.