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No Charger Needed

Sometimes I charge my phone by hooking it up to my computer.

Whenever I do, I get this message on my phone:
And of course, I always touch TRUST because this is the computer I use everyday at work and there are a gazillion security things that keep it "clean."

What if people we met came with the same kind of banner?  Maybe with a notification that read something like, "This is a person you can trust," or "You need to walk away NOW because you cannot trust this person."

Trusting people is easy for some, not so much for others.  I think it depends on how your life has gone up until this point.  If you're fortunate, you have been surrounded by a healthy family unit and reliable friends.  But I don't know of anyone who has not put his trust in a person and been horribly let down at least once.   It's just a casualty of life.

So how do you know who you can trust?  Which people do you put your faith in and count on?  The answer is kind of a non-answer:  TIME.  It takes time to know who you can and can't trust, and unfortunately, even then you might get let down.

But here's the good thing:  Time is the answer to a lot of other trust issues.  Spending time with someone shows off his or her good points, but also shines a light into the dark corners so that the not-so-pretty can be exposed.  Once exposed, you can decide if the not-so-pretty is a thing to work through or if it is something from which you are protecting yourself by way of healthy boundaries.

Psalm 18:28 says, "For it is you (God) who light my lamp; the Lord my God lightens my darkness."  God will reveal to you the wisdom you need in every situation.  He tells us that we can ask for wisdom and get it -- Proverbs 2:6 promises "For the Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding," and of course James 1:5 says, "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given to him."

Trust. Time, Wisdom.  Can't use a lightning cord or a mini-USB to get these, but the charge lasts forever.


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