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Guest Blogger Haley Hancock

I am blessed to have amazing young adult children and their friends are equally amazing.  I invited our friend Haley to share her latest blog post because I just love it.  So please welcome..... Haley Hancock!  
There are so many things in life that can cause you to become blind to the faithfulness of Christ in your every day life. A common one for a lot of children and families is divorce. I recently experienced this in my own life and honestly there where times when I wondered if it would ever end. There were many nights spent in prayer that God would somehow save my family. All I wanted was for my family to go back to the way it had been. There’s nothing wrong with that, right? 
A lot of times we get so caught up in our own wants and what we think we need that we decide they’re better than whatever God wants for us. We turn our prayers into Christmas lists instead of asking for God’s will to be done in our circumstances. I had a friend tell me about how she had begun prayer journaling, and in the midst of the separation of my family I decided to start a prayer journal of my own. One of the first lines of my prayer was, “why has my life turned out like this?” Reading back on that over a month later, I can clearly see just how focused I was on myself. 
During the hard times, and even normal times, it’s easy to pray for God to make our wants His wants, when His own word says that once we dwell on Him, just the opposite happens. We then begin to want His wants for us instead of our own. 
As the prayer went on, I watched my spirit change before my own eyes. My heart of brokenness quickly changed into a heart of thanksgiving. When I sat down to write that day I never would’ve guessed I’d be writing for 3 solid hours. God quickly grabbed hold of my heart and revealed to me just how faithful He’d been and just how jaded I had become. I was focusing on how much the situation hurt me, rather than how much God was restoring me. My prayer is 4 pages long, and halfway through page one it turned into a giant thank-you note that lists each and every person who God put in my life to walk with me. 
I’m not writing this because I think I have it all together, because I’m nowhere near having anything together. I don’t even know where half my socks are. I just want to encourage you to look for God’s faithfulness in whatever you may be going through. I can promise you won’t be looking long at all before things start popping up. When you see them, write them down. Then read back on them when it seems like there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. Even when it feels like your world is falling apart, God’s got little, old you in the palm of His giant, loving hand. 

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